Category Archives: Life Issues/ Motivational Posts

Books, Interview, Life Issues/ Motivational Posts, Music/Entertainment

Being Pyotr Ilyich Book Tour

Do you stick to the same genre when choosing a book to read? Or are you adventurous enough to read something that is quite different from what you are used to? For me personally, I enjoy reading books encompassing various genres. So I was so thrilled to read a book that was so different from anything I have ever read before and it was captivating, thought provoking, well written and thoroughly enjoyable. The book : “Being Pyotr Ilyich- Tchaikovsky’s Inner Life Revealed By Himself 130 Years Later” by Chris Nielsen. It’s a spiritual memoir shaped by past life regression that explores Tchaikovsky’s inner world through the lens of soul memory, emotional healing and reincarnation. Before I introduce Chris Nielsen onto the blog to chat about her regression therapy, Tchaikovsky and her book, here’s a quick book summary:

BOOK SUMMARY

“Being Pyotr Ilyich: Tchaikovsky’ s Inner Life, Revealed by Himself 130 Years Later” is a confessional spiritual memoir that explores the deeper meaning of human suffering, love, and creative purpose through the lens of soul memory. Born from an extensive process of past-life and between-lives regression, the book recounts Chris Nielsen’s unexpected discovery of a former life as the composer Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky—and the profound emotional wounds, unfinished lessons, and spiritual insights that followed her into this lifetime. Moving beyond biography, the book uses Tchaikovsky’s life as a case study to illuminate how trauma, grief, identity, and longing echo across incarnations. Blending personal experience with therapeutic and spiritual reflection, Chris offers readers a rare glimpse into the mechanics of incarnation, life purpose, and healing from the perspective of the Higher Self. At its core, this book is not about the past—it is about understanding why we are here, how love shapes our evolution, and how deep inner clarity can transform pain into meaning. This is a book for seekers, creatives, and anyone longing to understand the hidden threads that connect suffering, love, and the soul’s long journey home.

ISBN-10: ‎ 9730378851

ISBN-13: ‎ 978-9730378856

ASIN: B0BTZTG87W

Print length: 205 pages

THE INTERVIEW

A big warm welcome to the the blog, Chris …please introduce yourself 😊

Thank you so much for inviting me to this interview. I’m truly grateful for the opportunity to share a little about myself and about the journey behind my book.

First of all, I would say that I have always been a researcher of Life with a capital L. Since I was very young, I have felt a deep need to understand the essential questions of our human existence: who we are, why we are here on Earth, what suffering means, whether there is a relationship between our emotions and our physical body, and what death truly is.

I have also always been drawn to questions about God. Does God exist? Where is He? What does He do? Can we communicate with Him? What does He feel? These questions were never abstract to me. They were living questions — questions that came from somewhere very deep inside.

And, in a mysterious way, I feel that over the past twenty years, life itself has gradually answered many of them for me. At the time, I was not always aware that a particular experience I was going through was actually life’s way of answering one of the deeper questions I had been carrying within me. But looking back, I can see that each crisis, each inner struggle, each book that came into my life, each teacher I met, each course I followed, and each healing experience was part of a much larger answer.

Many of the truths that were revealed to me through this personal and spiritual journey are now woven into my book, Being Pyotr Ilyich – Tchaikovsky’s Inner Life, Revealed by Himself 130 Years Later.

So, to answer your question in a more “earthly” way, I am Chris Nielsen, the author of Being Pyotr Ilyich – Tchaikovsky’s Inner Life, Revealed by Himself 130 Years Later, a spiritual memoir shaped by past-life regression. The book explores the inner world of Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky through the lens of soul memory, emotional healing, reincarnation, and the deeper meaning of human suffering and destiny.

Alongside my work as an author, I also host the podcast Time Traveling – A Spiritual Journey of Healing, where I explore the deeper architecture of the soul through past-life regression and spiritual awareness. Across more than forty episodes, I share the inner story behind my book, while also reflecting on universal themes such as emotional healing, reincarnation, the purpose of earthly life, and the connection between mind, body, and spirit.

My spiritual and therapeutic path began more deeply in 2013, when my husband and I started studying complementary and energy-based approaches to healing. Over the years, my training has included Reiki, bioenergy, hypnosis, reflexology, lymphatic massage, and past-life regression therapy through the Past Life Regression Academy in the United Kingdom.

At the same time, I also come from a very artistic and cultural background. Since 2007, I have worked in arts marketing, communication, and public relations, collaborating with cultural institutions and international projects. One of the most memorable moments of my professional life was serving as Communication Assistant for the 63rd Cannes Film Festival in France. I have also worked with institutions such as the Bucharest National Opera, the Romanian Radio Orchestras and Choirs, and Accademia Teatro alla Scala in Milan, through the studiOpera European project.

Academically, I trained in Theatre Directing and Communication, then specialised in Public Relations and Advertising. I continued my studies in France at Université Lumière Lyon 2 through a European Union scholarship, and later earned a Master’s degree in Cultural Marketing at Université de Lorraine, with the support of a French Government scholarship.

My first book, European Opera Nowadays: How to Promote a Performance?, was published in Paris in 2011 by Éditions L’Harmattan. It was written in French and focused on communication strategies in European opera houses — a subject very close to my professional life at that time.

Looking back, I can see that my path has always moved between art, communication, healing, and the search for deeper meaning. For many years, these areas seemed separate. But today I understand that they were all preparing me for the same work: to explore the human soul, to give language to inner experience, and to share what I have discovered in the hope that it may help others on their own journey.

Being Pyotr Ilyich – Tchaikovsky’s Inner Life, Revealed by Himself 130 Years Later is a spiritual memoir shaped by past-life regression sessions conducted over the course of a year and a half. When did you realise that your recorded life regression sessions could become such an interesting memoir?

Very quickly. After the second or third regression therapy session focused on this past life, and on the issues stemming from that existence that were still affecting my current life, I returned to my normal waking state with a kind of inner fire — a need, I would say — to share what I was experiencing in trance.

And, as I have always emphasized in interviews and in the introduction to my book, there were two aspects that prompted me to write it.

The first one is related to the book’s narrative itself — the story of my past life as Tchaikovsky. I felt a deep desire to offer people, especially those who still love the music I left behind, an extremely intimate and authentic picture of his story. Regression naturally gives you this opportunity: to truly enter the soul you once embodied and to feel, in the most intimate way possible, exactly what you went through.

So I wanted to offer those who are interested my inner truth from that time — the opportunity to understand Tchaikovsky as a man, not only as an artist or a composer.

But, far more important and powerful than this aspect, what truly led me to publish this book was not Tchaikovsky himself, but all the revelations that were given to me during my own healing process.

In order to heal myself, I desperately needed to understand why I had gone through such terrible suffering back then. I wanted to understand my life mission, my relationship with music, and especially my personal and emotional drama. I wanted to understand my depression and my dramatic ending.

In trance, I was shown things related to what birth and death really are from our soul’s point of view, to the inner child, and to my constant fear of abandonment. I understood karma, my relationship with my family, and the way we adopt behavioural patterns. I was shown how trauma creates inner blockages and limiting patterns of behaviour, and how these patterns must be understood and released in order for healing to take place.

I was also given fascinating answers about our relationship with the body and the Higher Self, the crucial importance of self-love, how the human spirit evolves, and our relationship with the Divine. I also came to understand fascinating things about how the script of a life is constructed.

And as these answers from Above were given to me in trance, it became clear: these truths were too numerous, too profound, and too fascinating to keep only for myself.

Almost all of these themes are issues that every person faces. Our lives are not as different from one another as they may seem. We all go through the same kinds of dramas — variations on the same theme. And when one of us finds an answer or a solution, I believe it is important to share it.

Do you think that your passion for music and being a woman helped you through the past-life regression sessions to understand and be able to faithfully recall Tchaikovsky’s toughest life moments, decisions and emotions?

No, I wouldn’t say that.

All these categories — gender, race, nationality, religion, and so on — are like labels we wear throughout our lives and then change from one incarnation to another.

My experience of more than ten years, both as a patient and as a therapist, has shown me that, from one life to another, we have all experienced roles that are, so to speak, extremely diverse. I, for example, was a reclusive Buddhist monk in the Himalayas. I was among the first monks who, alongside Saint Francis of Assisi, founded his church in Italy during the Middle Ages. I was part of Native American tribes. I witnessed the events in Palestine 2,000 years ago, connected to the coming of Jesus, and I also witnessed scenes described in the Old Testament.

I have been both a man and a woman countless times.

What carries us, in trance, is the close connection between an emotional or physical symptom we experience in our current life and its original source. This symptom may appear as a limiting behavioural pattern, a type of emotional blockage, recurring nightmares, fears whose cause we do not understand, phobias, or unexplained physical pains that cannot be medically explained.

Therapy therefore begins with a clear and troubling problem that we want to resolve. And the therapist, who is essentially a guide, helps us go back to what I call “the zero moment”: the source, the root where that particular problem originated.

That root may be in our current life — in childhood, adolescence, or another significant moment — or it may be in a past life.

For the soul, time is eternal. So whether something happened three years ago or three thousand years ago is irrelevant to our human spirit. The path back is the same, and the healing mechanism is identical.

What matters is to understand not only what happened, but, more importantly, why it happened.

As I often say, in my view, the healing mechanism follows a kind of inner equation: first, you understand why you went through the trauma or painful experience; then you accept it; then you forgive — yourself, others, or the Divine, because these are the only three possible poles of inner conflict — and then forgiveness ultimately opens the way to healing.

So whatever we are today — women or men, whatever our concerns, wounds, or questions may be — we can access our past at any time in order to heal ourselves.

And I want to emphasize that I am not necessarily advocating specifically for regression therapy. That was my path. But today there are many therapies and therapists who, through other forms, ultimately arrive at similar truths and similar healing mechanisms. I explain the principles as I understand them through my own experience. But each person must choose their own path to healing.

Were there any aspects of writing your book that surprised you, either by being harder or easier to relate than you expected?

Yes, of course. It was very difficult for me to put into words the most tragic and emotionally intense moments.

It was hard to relive my own death countless times, as well as the periods of deep depression, my mother’s death, and many other painful moments. I think it is important to remember that this book came into being through the transcription of audio recordings made during my regression therapy sessions.

In order to preserve everything as authentically as possible — almost as if I were broadcasting live from Tchaikovsky’s life — I intervened as little as I could, and only at the level of form. Of course, when you are in trance, you express yourself exactly as things come to you in that moment.

So I had to remove repetitions, smooth out occasional inconsistencies of expression, and arrange the events chronologically, because in trance the chronological order is not always followed.

For that reason, sitting with headphones on, transcribing the recordings and then shaping the text into a clear, grammatically correct, and fluid form for the reader was often emotionally difficult. It meant returning again and again to the drama I had gone through.

But if my readers feel that this book has enriched their lives, touched them deeply, and helped them better understand the meaning of life, suffering, healing, or the journey of the soul, then I will feel that all the effort was truly worth it.

I loved your writing style and the honesty that shone through. I went through a range of emotions — I wanted to reach out and comfort Pyotr as he struggled with his feelings, I sympathised when he was shy at performing his music… phew! Did you find writing “his” story therapeutic for you?

As I mentioned earlier, it was not the story of my life as Tchaikovsky itself that helped me therapeutically, but rather my understanding of the meaning behind it.

Any professionally conducted regression session consists of two main parts. The first is the exploration phase, in which you are guided through the essential moments of your current or past life — specifically those moments that are relevant to the issue being addressed. The second is the healing phase, which I consider to be the most essential part.

During this healing phase, the therapist guides you to meet the souls with whom you shared those significant experiences, to express what remained unsaid, to release blocked emotions, and to connect with your Higher Self and your spiritual guide or guides. This helps you understand the deeper meaning of the experiences you lived through and establish a clear, direct connection with your current life.

The therapist may also guide you through a process of future projection, allowing you to become aware of and strengthen the positive transformations that result from the healing.

There are many techniques a therapist can use to help the patient heal and integrate that healing. And this is what helped me — not the story itself, but the understanding, release, and transformation that came through the therapeutic process.

How did you feel when, during your first past-life regression session, it was revealed that the soul was Pyotr?

I was surprised. I truly didn’t expect that.

But gradually, I began to see the many apparently unconnected threads that had already woven themselves into my current life and that, in fact, stemmed from that past life. But you always understand this in hindsight. At the time, we usually don’t realise how much we carry forward from our past lives — often without being aware of it at all.

For example, if you had a past life in which you died defending a fortress and felt deeply attached to that place and that cause, that unresolved attachment can call you back. You may then find yourself, in this life, working on the restoration of a palace or fortress that you died defending three hundred years ago.

Of course, I repeat, we do not always incarnate among the same people or in the same country. But our passions, our dramas, and what remains unexpressed or unresolved within us always call us back to Earth, until that wound is healed and that emotion is resolved.

For example, I have a close connection to music in this life, and it does not stem only from my life as Tchaikovsky. In the same way, another theme that has been extremely present throughout my past lives — and that continues in this life as well — is the spiritual quest. I have been a monk or a prophet many times, within very different religions.

We have no idea to what overwhelming extent everything in our lives is a continuation.

After exploring approximately thirty past lives over more than twelve years, I can say that we all have a long, beautiful, and complex spiritual journey. Physical death is merely a pause in the physical, material realm — not an end. Everything is connected and continues in our destiny as souls. And as difficult as our journey on Earth often is, our journey as spirits is just as fascinating.

Tell me about your podcast, Time Traveling.

My podcast is called Time Traveling – A Spiritual Journey of Healing, and in many ways it is a natural continuation of my book, Being Pyotr Ilyich – Tchaikovsky’s Inner Life, Revealed by Himself 130 Years Later.

In the podcast, I explore the deeper architecture of the soul through past-life regression, karmic memory, and emotional healing across lifetimes. Each episode begins from a question that, I believe, many of us carry within us: What is the purpose of earthly life? Why do we suffer? How are emotional wounds formed? What do we bring with us from one life to another? What happens between incarnations? And how do our relationships, illnesses, talents, fears, or life missions reflect a much longer journey of the soul?

The podcast draws from more than a decade of my own regression experiences, as well as from my therapeutic training and the spiritual revelations that inspired my book. I speak about themes such as the inner child, fear of abandonment, karma, soul contracts, family patterns, self-love, the Higher Self, the meaning of suffering, the connection between blocked emotions and physical illness, and the healing process through awareness, understanding, forgiveness, and release.

Although some episodes are connected to the soul journey described in Being Pyotr Ilyich, the message of the podcast is much more universal. My intention is not only to speak about Tchaikovsky or about my own experience, but to use these experiences as a doorway into questions that concern all of us.

For me, Time Traveling – A Spiritual Journey of Healing is a space where spirituality becomes very human and very concrete. It is about understanding our patterns, our wounds, our relationships, and our destiny from a wider perspective. And above all, it is about healing — because once we understand why certain experiences happened, we can begin to accept them, forgive, and transform our relationship with our own life.

Are you a bookworm yourself? What genre of books do you personally enjoy reading?

Yes, I absolutely love reading. I would say I am almost addicted to books — they are like a kind of medicine for me.

Especially at night, before going to sleep, no matter how tired I am — and I am usually completely exhausted — I feel the need to escape into books, to unwind after the chaos of the day, and to enter another space of reflection, silence, and discovery.

Over the past fifteen years, I have read almost exclusively books on alternative medicine, spirituality, healing, and consciousness. And I can say, without exaggeration, that some of these books have truly changed my life. I feel extremely grateful to the authors who wrote them.

It is extraordinary how the right book, arriving in your life at a very specific moment, can offer exactly the answer you need at that stage of your journey.

Some of the authors I deeply admire — and whom I often read in French or English — are Brian Weiss, for his work on past-life regression; Michael Newton, a pioneer in the study of the afterlife and life between lives; Dr. Luc Bodin and Ruediger Dahlke, for their work on energy medicine, psychosomatics, and alternative therapies; Pierre Lere Guillemet, for spiritual awakening; Daniel Odier, for his profound approach to Tantra, in the deepest sense of the word, not merely in relation to sexuality; Robert Monroe, for his work on out-of-body experiences; and Tom Kenyon, Wendy Kennedy, and Sal Rachele, for their channelled teachings about what is happening to Earth during this particular era.

I also deeply admire Caroline Myss, especially for her work on the connection between the soul and illness.

And, of course, a very special place in my heart belongs to Daniel Meurois, the renowned French author based in Canada, whose work in the field of spirituality has touched me deeply. He also did me the great honour of writing the foreword to my book. His bestsellers — especially his books concerning the life of Jesus Christ — are truly life-changing.

Is Being Pyotr Ilyich available to purchase worldwide?

Yes, absolutely. My book is available both in print and as an ebook.

Readers can find it on Amazon, as well as through several other retailers and platforms, including Apple Books, Barnes & Noble, Kobo, Scribd, Smashwords, and others. It is also available through IngramSpark, for bookstores, libraries, or other institutions that may wish to order it.

All purchase options can be found on my author website: https://chrisnielsenbooks.com/. There, readers can also discover more about the book and read three free sample chapters before deciding whether they feel called to continue the journey.

Personal now — what outfits and shoes would you normally be found wearing?

One of the ways in which my life as Tchaikovsky seems to have influenced my current personality is my taste in clothing. I often feel drawn to a rather masculine, or elegantly masculine, style.

For me, the height of feminine elegance is a tailcoat — which is rather funny, but also revealing. It shows how we sometimes carry things forward without even knowing why we are attracted to a particular style, object, place, or atmosphere.

Yes, I often wear trousers and jackets. I love elegance, but a simple, refined elegance — not baroque, not excessive, not overdone. At the same time, I adore bright colours: green, yellow, orange. So perhaps there is a meeting point in me between masculine structure and a very vivid, joyful sense of colour.

Do you have any favourite shops or online sites?

No, I wouldn’t say so. I buy whatever I feel resonates with my style; I don’t pay attention to brands or trends.

What’s next on your clothes or shoe wish list?

I adore turquoise, and I absolutely love the Mediterranean Sea. So I think the perfect gift for me would be a large, hand-painted beach shawl in shades of turquoise.

It would be especially perfect for the coming summer, because I dream of returning to Italy — a place that is very dear to me, where I have spent many beautiful holidays, and which also feels deeply connected to some of my past lives. :))

Boots or shoes? And why?

Tall, elegant boots, similar to riding boots, because they create a beautiful contrast between masculine and feminine. 🙂

Links you would like to share, e.g. website, Facebook, etc.

Of course. I would be very happy to invite readers to stay connected with me and explore more about my work through my author website and social media channels. My book, free sample chapters, podcast episodes, updates, and reflections on past-life regression, healing, and the soul journey can be found here:

🌐 chrisnielsenbooks.com
▶️ youtube.com/@ChrisNielsenChannel
📘 facebook.com/chrisnielsen.official
📸 instagram.com/chrisnielsen.official
📖 goodreads.com/author/show/29758446.Chris_Nielsen

My podcast, Time Traveling – A Spiritual Journey of Healing, is also available on YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.

BOOK TOUR DATES

Great to chat with you Chris – your book is fascinating ! My thanks to Chris Nielsen for the review copy of Being Pyotr Ilyich.

All photographs have been published with the kind permission of Chris Nielsen. Photography by Andrei Popovici and Augustin Niculescu.

Share This!
Email, RSS Follow
Pin It
Email
Books, Interview, Life Issues/ Motivational Posts

Marie Conner, A Leading Lady Book Tour

Every now and again I like to read a non fiction book, and “Marie Conner, A Leading Lady” by author Elle Mott . It is a true story about a lady who showed true community spirit and dedication; it’s a story about how American society has evolved through the 20th century; and Marie lived in an era when women were expected to stay at home and not go out to work, for example, and yet Marie was a strong female character who was not one for staying at home, twiddling her thumbs. It gives me great pleasure to be part of Elle’s book tour, but before I chat to Elle about this incredible woman (who happened to be Elle’s maternal great-grandmother) , here’s a quick summary of “Marie Conner, A Leading Lady”:

BOOK SUMMARY

Marie was born a girl. That was only her first mistake, according to her father.
In an era when daughters and wives are not supposed to be concerned with matters outside the home, Marie is determined to prove him wrong. To do this, she must break down barriers placed on women in society, overcome difficulties that befall her, surpass hardships from the Great Depression, and then face an inevitable relocation.
Marie steps into her community and into the hearts of many people to give her time and help with their needs. She wants nothing in return other than her father’s acceptance as a worthy woman and yet, she gains much in return, even if it is not her father’s praise. This is Marie’s story—of a rise from her girlhood angsts to become a leading lady—and much more.

THE INTERVIEW

A big warm welcome to the blog, Elle .👋 Please tell us a bit about yourself. 😊

Hello, I’m Elle (three letters in my name are silent but I am anything but silent in bringing you this historical biography: Marie Conner, A Leading Lady). Some people call me the “bird-lady.” Not only do I feed the birds outside when on my breaks at work, but I have several pet birds (and two cats). Some people call me the “blue-haired lady.” My bangs are blue while the rest of my hair has gone gray. Some people call me “the writer” and some people call me “the author.”

Who or what inspired you to write the biography “Marie Conner: A Leading Lady”?

Inspiration for Marie Conner, A Leading Lady came from my memoir, Out of Chaos, in which my remembrance of her gave me strength to make peace with my mistakes and to overcome difficulties. I had been on the verge of adulthood, and she, much older, when she had imparted words of wisdom to me. With my memoir published, and she, long gone, I questioned why my strength had come from her. That answer involved research. Marie, who was once my matriarch, was next a great muse for me as I peeled back the layers of a woman, who, as I came to find out, had lived a truly remarkable life. As in awe as I was, I knew I had to share her story.

Your book highlighted the strong character of Marie, her dedication to her fellow citizens and her community spirit; when she lived in an era where women were expected to stay at home and concentrate on running her family. I was particularly impressed with her newspaper column and how through that she helped those community members who were in particular need. What did you particularly admire about Marie?

The spunkiness and can-do spirit in Marie is what I especially admire. If something needed to be done in her community, she did it—or in her rare moments of not shining with perfection, she surely tried rather than to sit still in doing nothing. Marie was an ordinary woman who did extraordinary things to change her community for the better and forevermore.

Researching for your book must have been quite interesting… did you discover anything that shocked you or uncover some nugget of information that was unexpected? 

I thought I had known my matriarch, Marie. She was the all-wise one and had shared so very much about herself with me. Yet, and when in the early stages of research where I perused documents in genealogy repositories, I turned pages if only out of curiosity only to discover something concerning her marriage—something she had never revealed to me, that I remember. That there is a spoiler though and one for you to read about in the conclusion of Chapter 2. This “something” that I discovered caused me to flesh out that part of her story, worthy of inclusion.   

Hypothetically speaking, if “Marie Conner, A Leading Lady” was made into a film, who would you love to see portraying Marie Conner? 

Thinking of Marie in her golden years, reflecting on all that is shared in her biography, Helen Mirren would be a fine choice to portray her.

Growing up, did you always want a career in writing, or did you have completely different career aspirations? 

I’ll admit that teachers noticed my creative approach to what was supposed to be facts-only-essays. But, no, a career in writing was not on my mind when growing up. My author life came as an adult and when people told me to write my story, and from that, my first book, my memoir was published. And as you know, my memoir inspired this book. That’s my writing journey—I write because people want me to write and out of that, I have a gained passion to keep writing.

Is “Marie Conner: A Leading Lady” available to purchase worldwide?

As of February 11, 2026, its paperback and ebook is available on Amazon worldwide. Shortly thereafter, readers can also find it on B&N.com, bookshop.org, Powell’s Books, and even online at Walmart.

If you’d like your local bookstore to carry it, then if you give them the ISBN, they can have your order fulfilled by Ingram. You can also ask your neighborhood library to get it—the copyright page has a cataloging-in-publication data block to ensure their smooth acquisition. 

Are you a bookworm yourself? If so, what genres (or authors) do you usually like to read? And are you a kindle or “proper book” fan?

I’m not so much of a bookworm, per se, but yes, I like to read. I find that historical books—both nonfiction and novels—are invaluable in that history shows we have the power to create a better tomorrow. One author I keep coming back to is Paulette Mahurin—she has many novels to choose from, and in each, with strong characters from the past. Recently, I read a book by another author, Dede Montgomery: A Map of Her Own is a dual-timeline novel—now that was both interesting and quite good.

At home, I have my kindle bookmarked on my computer for my ever-growing ebook shelf. Whereas, when out and about, such as on my breaks at work, I am, for sure, a “proper book” fan.

Personal now – what outfits and shoes would you normally be found wearing?

When I was a little girl, my matriarch, Marie, made sure I was in a dress and often times, carrying a matching parasol. Today, being winter, it is J.Crew corduroy pants paired with a turtleneck t-shirt and boots. Summertime will bring knee length shorts and skirts. Between now and then, its Levi’s. No longer a little girl, cords and jeans are just fine so long as I pull the look together in a way that shows I care.

Do you have any favourite shops or online sites ?

Marie felt that we should give attention to our appearance, and that how we present ourselves shows who we are. With that in mind, I wear quality clothing and shoes. Marc Nolan is my go-to shoe store for both boots and Mary Janes: I need quality shoes to withstand my work week. Summertime finds me in colorful silk skirts or in casual Volcom shorts.

What’s next on your clothes/shoe wish list?

Maybe another pair of Mary Janes?

Boots or Shoes? ( & Why?)

Today, its winter boots that zip up. Come warmer weather, it will be Mary Janes that buckle. I don’t do shoelaces. I hate keeping up on shoelaces that are prone to coming untied, that, plus shoes with shoelaces give an outfit an unpolished look. If Marie could pull her look together to show her beauty, so can I.

Links you would like to share e.g. website/facebook etc

https://ellemottauthor.com

Previous ASIN B0GFGTN761
New ASIN B0GP93NVQ8

New Amazon ebook link:
https://www.amazon.com/Marie-Conner-Leading-Lady-Leadership-ebook/dp/B0GP93NVQ8

BOOK TOUR DATES

My thanks to Elle for inviting me onto her book tour, for chatting to me, for the review copy of her fabulous book and for sharing an interest in delving into our past.

Linda x

All photographs have been published with the kind permission of Elle Mott.

Share This!
Email, RSS Follow
Pin It
Email
Books, Interview, Life Issues/ Motivational Posts, Photographers/Models

An Interview With Anika Pavel

I’m so excited to welcome onto the blog this week ex Bond Girl Anika Pavel. Anika came to England from her native Czechoslovakia (Trnava, now part of Slovakia) in the 1960s to be an au pair for a year, based in the town of Ipswich, Suffolk. Unfortunately in 1968 the Soviet Union invaded Czechoslovakia and she was unable to return home. Her good looks and poise helped her gain financial independence and she became a fashion model, gracing pages of women’s magazines…. a Playboy Bunny… a Bond Girl … an actress … and a writer. Her memoir, “Encounter With The Future”, is interesting to read as she navigates the different stages of her life from Czechoslovakia (Slovakia) to England; to Asia and settling now in the USA. Such a fascinating insight into those heady days of the late 60s /early 70s….. Hi Anika 👋

Hello readers. My name is Anika Pavel. I live on Cape Cod Massachusetts. Pretty poetic given my ties to the Bee Gees music as you will find out below. 

 “Encounter With The Future” is your memoir from when you left your home country of Czechoslovakia in the 1960s  for a year’s experience as a au pair in England at the tender age of 18; your life as a fashion model, as an actress, and as a Bond girl,  eventually settling down in the USA; what made you decide to write down your story? 

I arrived in England wide eyed and eager to learn. The plan was to be an au pair for one year, then go home. I was soaking up the English experience when in August 1968 the Soviet Union invaded my homeland and nobody could be sure if it would be safe for me to go back. I became a model by chance, although fashion was in my DNA. My father was a tailor and I made my first outfit on his old PFFAF foot-powered sewing machine at the age of seven. Supervised by dad of course. 

My parents always said I was never short of words. I remain a story teller with an elephant memory. So when my children asked me to write down the stories I was telling them, I decided to go to school and learn how to write properly. To my surprise my essays began to get published. I was asked to put the essays into a book and as a result, Encounter with the Future was born. 

What helped you through your toughest moments when you first left your family in Czechoslovakia; and when the Soviet Union invaded your homeland?

Being alone in London and knowing my family was in a country full of tanks and soldiers, was hard. Getting through the difficult moments was rough. I can’t sugar coat it. But when you have no choice, you just go on till it gets better. The Bee Gees song about the mining disaster made me feel lucky that I could feel hunger and I could feel cold, because I was alive. I never complain to people around me. I did not want to be labeled; “wet” do you remember that expression? Is it still used? 

Oh yes, Anika, that expression is still used!

I loved your writing style and the honesty that shone through. Did you find writing your story therapeutic? 

I find writing the essays therapeutic. I laughed and I cried. Let me rephrase it, I laughed a lot and I bawled my eyes out and it helped me.

For me, writing is therapy. It is not like talking. Once you say it, you cannot un-say it but you can always delete your writing. So I can just let it rip. 

How difficult was it to adjust to living in a different country? How did you get to grips with learning English?

Adjusting to living in different countries was not hard for me. After all, I grew up on “Travel is the University of Life!” Learning English was harder. Actually, learning English was not hard. I could read books in less than four months. Understanding English however was a whole different matter. Thanks again to the BEE GEES song; Smile, an everlasting smile, a smile can bring you near to me… that song broke my ear barrier.  After I was able to understand that song my ears had adjusted. I shall be forever thankful. 

Becoming a Bond Girl must have been very glamorous  … of course, I love Bond films especially The Spy Who Loved Me 😊 Was it nerve racking being on the film set? What was your favourite modelling/acting experience ?

Being on the set of The Spy Who Loved Me was exhilarating. I inhaled every last drop of air in the Pinewood studios. It’s a miracle Roger Moore found any oxygen left to survive!  Haha!

My favorite modelling experience was to appear on three covers of a WOMAN magazine and the Close up toothpaste tv commercial. Working on James Bond was a unique experience I could never forget. I met Roger Moore in NYC when he was promoting the 50 years of James Bond. He treated me like a long lost friend. As for acting, working with Benny Hill in Raid on the Waterloo Station was very unique. Benny became a friend beyond cameras. He was kind, funny and very perceptive. 

Since your foray to England at the age of 18 from Czechoslovakia, you have travelled quite extensively across Europe, Asia and USA – Any favourite destinations?  What’s top of your bucket list?

I loved living and learning about different parts of the world but London will always be deepest in my heart. I will always be Slovak but being British is an honor I treasure. My children are now in New York so my heart tags toward the city that never sleeps as well. I have only one place on my bucket list. Australia. I have so many wonderful friends who live there, some I met in Hong Kong but some were pivotal in my life in England. I have to go and see them all.

Is “Encounter With The Future” available to purchase worldwide?

Encounter with the Future is available worldwide. You can get it on Amazon. Barnes and Noble, though you have to order it on B&N and you can also order it from my website too.

Personal now – what outfits and shoes would you normally be found wearing?

Personal yeh! I love suits, vests and ties, what can I say, my father was a tailor. I like to switch it around too. So certain trousers may find themselves dancing with a different jacket and totally funky blouse. But I love ties! Not scarves, I love ties and vests. I would wear a tie and vest with a soft silk frilly blouse! Pants are secondary as long as they are comfortable. I do love the occasional funky skirt with tie and vest. Hmm I have a need to stick my nose into my closet.  

Shoes – When I was younger, I loved very high heels. I still do but now I carry flats in my handbag. I always felt high heels give women great posture. You can’t slouch in high heels.

Do you have any favourite shops or online sites ?

I like the whole experience of shopping. Or as my friend Carolyn in London calls it RETAIL THERAPY. I used to love going to Harrods in the 1970’s and Peter Jones in Sloane Square, Selfridges in West End.  But my absolute favorite was Liberty of London! I own a whole collection of their ties and mentioned my passion for the store and their ties in one of my essays in the book. 

On line, I hit Etsy for something funky. J. Crew for something practical. I also love going to one of the little shops nobody ever heard of. I don’t shop much online. My daughter does, I think it is generational.

Oh my, Liberty’s in London was my haunt in the 1980s! Love that store! What’s next on your clothes/shoe wish list?

What outfits am I looking for now? Something comfortable yet structured. Suit but not suit. I want to stay true to myself but I don’t want to see myself coming 40 years ago. I am also sensitive not to look like my daughter wannabe. Although we raid each other’s closets frequently… 

Boots or Shoes?

Shoes or boots. Shoes mostly because I have a very high instep and it’s a pain to take my boots off. Just ask my husband how many times he ended up on the floor pooling my boots off. 

Links you would like to share e.g. website/facebook etc

www.anikapavel.com  

Instagram@anika.pavel

Facebook@anika.pavel

Such a pleasure to have you on my blog, Anika! I loved reading your memoir and I am so glad to chat about your life experiences with you. And share a love of Liberty’s too! 😍

Linda x

All photographs have been published with the kind permission of Anika Pavel.

My thanks to Anika Pavel for the interview and Ben Cameron of Cameron Publicity & Marketing for a review copy of Encounter With The Future.

Share This!
Email, RSS Follow
Pin It
Email
Books, Interview, Life Issues/ Motivational Posts

An Interview With Christopher Paul Jones, Phobia Expert

This week I’d like to welcome onto the blog Christopher Paul Jones who is a leading Harley Street phobia expert. Christopher has conducted many years of research into fears, anxiety and phobias and has developed an integrated approach to help combat fears by combining mainstream psychology with cutting edge techniques. He has also just published a book too: “Face Your Fears – 7 Steps to Conquering Phobias and Anxiety “. Without any further ado, let’s chat to Christopher! Hi Christopher and welcome 👋

Hi 👋 I’m Christopher Paul Jones, a Harley Street phobia specialist based in London, near Richmond. I help people overcome fears and anxieties so they can live life with confidence and freedom.

Who or what inspired you to become a phobia expert?

It all started by chance. In my old job, I was working with someone who demonstrated rapid-change techniques, and it completely blew my mind. Back then, I thought therapy meant spending 20 years talking about your childhood. I had no idea you could make fast, lasting changes. I had my own fears at the time, so I started learning these techniques to help myself. Then I began helping others as a hobby—and before long, it turned into my full-time career.

Were there any aspects of writing your book or researching the Integrated Change System™ that surprised you?

Definitely. When I first learned these techniques over 20 years ago, they were considered quite alternative. What surprised me was how much has changed – today, neuroscience backs up many of these approaches.
Another big surprise was how something small, like a single comment or metaphor, can completely change someone’s life. Some sections of the book I nearly cut ended up being the ones people tell me made the biggest difference.

Can you explain a little bit about the Integrated Change System™ and its aims?

After years of working with clients, I realised there were seven key areas that needed to be addressed to overcome any fear. One technique alone rarely works for everyone, so I developed a system that covers all the bases. Here’s an overview of the seven steps:
1. Recognise – Identify what the fear really is and what triggers it.
2. Relax – Calm the mind and nervous system to stop fear spirals.
3. Reward – Understand the hidden benefit the fear gives you.
4. Recipe – Break down the fear pattern—fear is learned, so it can be unlearned.
5. Release – Let go of past events that feed the fear.
6. Recondition – Install new, positive responses in place of fear.
7. Realise – Visualise a future without fear and make it feel real.

The goal is to give people a practical way to overcome fear and take back control of their lives.

Have you always wanted a career in psychology or did you have other aspirations?

Not at all! Originally, I trained in media—I was a cameraman and editor. I discovered these techniques while filming courses. I started swapping skills, filming in exchange for learning, and at first I just wanted to improve my own life. Then I saw how powerful this work was and knew I wanted to help others too.

Have you experienced any phobias yourself?

Absolutely—I’ve been there myself. Growing up, I had several phobias: flying, public speaking, insects like spiders and wasps, and a lot of social anxiety. That’s why I’m so passionate about helping others—I know exactly how it feels.

What are the most common and unusual phobias you’ve encountered?

Some fears are incredibly common: public speaking, flying, spiders, snakes, dogs, weather-related fears like thunder and lightning, and medical phobias such as needles or choking.
But I’ve also seen some unusual ones. One client had a fear of Christmas tinsel. It turned out she’d been wrapped in tinsel as a child and choked during a game, so her brain linked tinsel with danger. Once we reconditioned that memory, the phobia disappeared.

Is Face Your Fears – 7 Steps to Conquering Phobias and Anxiety available worldwide?

Yes, it’s available worldwide. A friend in Australia recently found a copy, so you can definitely find it on Amazon and in most major bookstores.

What outfits and shoes would you normally be found wearing?

Before I met my wife, I dressed very casually. These days, I lean towards smart-casual. For shoes, I like Ted Baker and Skechers trainers for comfort. Outfit-wise, GANT and Tommy Hilfiger are my go-tos.

Do you have any favourite shops or online sites?

I shop at GANT, Ted Baker and Next, and I like Tommy Hilfiger and Ralph Lauren for classics. Marks & Spencer is great for good-quality basics.


What’s next on your clothes/shoe wish list?

After attending Henley Regatta, I realised I only have very casual or very formal shoes. Next on my list is a pair of comfortable loafers that work for both. I’d also like a good summer jacket.

Boots or shoes?

Shoes, because they’re much more comfortable. Boots feel a bit restrictive, even though they’re great for winter.

Links you would like to share:

You can find my book Face Your Fears on Amazon and other major bookstores. For resources, free tools, and more information, visit www.christopherpauljones.com

All photographs have been published with kind permission of Christopher Paul Jones.

Social media/top photo is of Luton Airport UK by Linda Hobden

Share This!
Email, RSS Follow
Pin It
Email
Books, Interview, Life Issues/ Motivational Posts

An Interview With Francis Keith Robins, Mathematical Genius


This week my guest on the blog is Francis Keith Robins, a mathematical genius . Admittedly his interest in fashion is practically non existent but he has just written a book called “The Fourth Coming – How God Mathematics Can Put The World To Rights” and I was intrigued by his ideas. And I have never met a mathematical genius before. And fortunately he was gallant enough to be interviewed by me….so, welcome …😀

Hello. My name is Francis Keith Robins, known as Keith. Age 79, single and born in Birkenhead – I am mathematical and philosophical genius, although not being very clever as it is due to my hypersensitivity and hyperactive mind that I rejected, as a youngster, information relating to the outside world and I devised a thinking strategy which everyone can employ. Thus, my consciousness and subconsciousness came in line on becoming an adult i.e. not adulterated e.g. with perceptions.

Maths genius – devised a mathematical model for any system or experience

Philosophical genius – solved consciousness which is, per New Scientist, one of the greatest mysteries of science or philosophy e.g. recognise that the world that surround us can be represented by a set of knowledge i.e. mathematically. I also devised an objective thinking strategy which is the way the mind should operate – which philosophers said was not possible.

What made you decide to write your book “The Fourth Coming – How God Mathematics Can Put The World To Right”?

The idea started when I left work. A psychiatrist analysed the way I thought and found it different from normal and suggested I contact a university. I was signed off mentally ill to promote my mission i.e. change the way people thought. God initially both helped me and also sent encouraging signals. The Fourth Coming relates to the conclusion that Jesus would come three times as my mission is to save the world using God Word i.e. mathematics.

Your book introduces the approach to reshaping our thought processes through mathematics and the idea of solving the world’s problems using a form of mathematics known as God Mathematics.  Could you give us a quick example of a world problem & how it could potentially be solved by using this approach?

I have devised a mathematical model of 15 classes of knowledge plus using set thinking to gather all knowledge for a given experience of system. It is difficult to give a quick example but I will try – one of the 15 classes of knowledge that represents any experience, is the associated mistakes and precautions. These models, I envisage, would be shared nationally and internationally so this would deter people learning by making mistaking e.g. climate prevent measures with set thinking [One could ask whether you have a complete set i.e. you have identified all members- which makes it a powerful thinking tool] 

Solar panel – sets

(a) set of elements that make up the subject e.g. screws, plates etc.

(b) ‘classify’ a climate prevention measure ‘expand’ wind turbines seagrass, harness moving water e.g. waterfall

(c) set of buildings with X characteristics which can have solar panels

(d) set of places where solar panels can be installed – on water, on land, on buildings etc.

plus best practised would be shared to make the world a better place.

These mathematical models could be used instead of debates as it is a more efficient way of gathering knowledge.

When someone says “Mathematics” to me I have visions of sums; so what exactly is God Mathematics?

I conclude God is a mathematical being as evidenced with set framework of Period Table, fractal design of physical features, pattern of DNA, the mathematical way the mind should operate, etc. The mathematics principles does not involved numbers. Instead it is based on the definition of a set i.e. a group of objects with specific characteristics, which is fundamental in maths and languages natural mathematical properties e.g. you can be represented by a set of knowledge – feet ‘classify’ a physical feature, ‘expand’ eyes etc. This classification can be raised to include all knowledge associated with you. Hence everyone can be represented by a unique set of information. People often wrongly apply set thinking when they have a bad experience e.g. with a policeman – they conclude all police are bad.

What exactly triggered your lightbulb moment that made you realise your life and the world’s problems in general, was indeed possible to be solved through following mathematical principles?

When I created a mathematical model of any system or experience.

Is there a significant reason why this approach is known as “God” mathematics?  Are there religious elements to the approach?

Background: I am not religious. In fact, as a youngster I attended Sunday school and one day I came home and told my mother I could not keep the rules of church and so would it be alright if I just consider the effects of my decisions. Mother replied that is all that God would want. It is known as ‘God’ mathematics because God is a mathematical being. He designed us in His image i.e. using their brains as simple mathematical machine. I conclude that God introduced religion because people were not using their brains in the way He intend, objectively v subjectively

Growing up, did you always want a “mathematical” based career or did you want to pursue a completely different direction?

I remember as an infant in a pram asking my mother what the numbers of the houses were. I took and gained A level Chemistry [school prize] and mathematics. I took and gained a mathematical degree even though my mathematics A level was worse. Numbers followed me to work when I was an external auditor. I have not read a book from cover to cover due to my hyperactive mind.

In your book, you mention that to maximise the potential of this new order, we need to change what children are taught in preparation for adulthood. Could you give an example?

Children should be taught an objective thinking strategy i.e. not creating perceptions, instead allowingthings to go over their head, e.g. having a general view of the NHS when a complete audit is required to establish the truth and the information is not needed. They should concentrate on living their life in a bubble, i.e. without the troubles of the world resting on their shoulders. They would also be taught set thinking plus mathematical models to represent the outside world [others, socialisation, common errors, potty training, importance of have a routine etc.]

Is your book “The Fourth Coming – How God Mathematics Can Put The World To Rights”  available to purchase worldwide?

As the book can be obtained through Amazon the book is available worldwide. The publishers Austin Macauley publishers can deliver worldwide.

Personal now – what outfits and shoes would you normally be found wearing?

Nothing special

Do you have any favourite shops or online sites ?

Lidl, Asda.

What’s next on your clothes/shoe wish list?

None – do not change for fashion – do not see any reason for changing regularly

Boots or Shoes?

None

Links you would like to share e.g. website/facebook etc

www.powerofobjectivethinking.com

Thank you for joining us on the blog, Keith.

Linda x

All photographs have been published with the kind permission of Francis Keith Robins

Share This!
Email, RSS Follow
Pin It
Email
Books, Interview, Life Issues/ Motivational Posts

Interview: Becky Westwood, Organisational Psychologist

This week isn’t about cats despite my photo accompanying the post however, I do think having a cat on your office work desk might help to decrease anxiety and stress in the work environment! Hey, what do I know?! Someone who would know is my guest this week, Becky Westwood,who is an organisational psychologist. Becky has a particular interest in anxiety : how it manifests in the workplace, how it can impact work life, and the horrors of giving and receiving feedback at work. Becky has done a lot of thorough research & her book, “Can I Offer You Something? Expert Ways To Unpack The Horrors Of Organisational Feedback “ shows a refreshing approach and is a definitive guide to conquering anxieties surrounding giving and receiving feedback. Without further ado, let’s welcome Becky onto the blog … Hi Becky 👋

Hi, I’m Becky an organisational psychologist, coach, avid Lego fan and more recently author. As an organisational psychologist with over 17 years of experience, I’ve had the privilege of training and coaching individuals across diverse industries in the UK, US, and Europe. I learned very early in my career that working hard and having fun are not mutually exclusive, and my love of Lego reminds me that at heart, I’m still a big kid!

My journey began with in-house training roles in retail and aerospace, leading me to establish my own consultancy in 2016, where I developed a specialisation in supporting individuals with social anxiety. Since 2021, I’ve been part of the Monkey Puzzle Training and Consultancy team, where I wear multiple hats as an organisational psychologist, coach, trainer, and Chief Experience Officer.

I have a particular interest in anxiety and how it manifests in the workplace, including its impact on burnout, feedback, and psychological safety. I’ve recently concluded two research projects exploring the relationship between anxiety and feedback in organizations, and I love sharing those findings, helping clients translate them into practical strategies for themselves and their teams. I’m also passionate about fostering inclusive workplaces and championing diversity. This commitment extends to my involvement with UK charities, including Diversity Role Models, where I serve as an LGBTQ+ role model, supporting young people.

What made you decide to launch your book “Can I Offer You Something? Expert Ways To Overcome The Horrors Of Organisational Feedback”?

When you hear the word feedback – what happens to you? Do you feel excited or do you feal dread? It turns out that most people feel the same.

So, I decided to launch ‘Can I Offer You Something’ because I realized that feedback, something meant to be constructive, has become a major source of anxiety for virtually everyone in the workplace. It’s not just a concern for those with diagnosed anxiety, but a universal experience that hinders our natural desire to contribute and grow. Through my research, it became clear that the process of giving and receiving feedback has become overly complicated and processed, stripping away the human connection. We’ve created this environment where both the giver and the receiver often share similar anxieties, yet we treat them as separate entities. My book aims to simplify this process, offering practical, holistic strategies to demystify feedback and turn it back into a collaborative, empowering tool, rather than a source of dread. It’s about restoring the human element to a process that should be about growth and connection.

About 10 years ago, I went to a job interview for a job I was qualified to do although it had been a long time since I had been office based.  The interview itself went ok, but I later learned I hadn’t got the job. However they asked me to get back in touch if I wanted feedback.  This was the first time I had come across a company offering feedback, I was unsure whether I wanted to hear the feedback, but nevertheless, I did contact them.  The feedback they gave me was so inspirational that I followed their advice, and it led me to pursue a totally different career, that I am still really enjoying.  Why do you think feedback is looked upon with such dread? 

In today’s world of work most people feel individually connected to what they do, work is no longer something that you just show up and get on with. For many it has become entangled in their identity. Exchanging feedback can end up feeling incredibly personal. The highs are encouraging and motivating, the lows can feel confronting and judgemental. When someone hears “that could have gone better” what they often feel is that “you could be better”. It’s usually this feeling that recipients of feedback dread and it’s the reaction to this feeling that providers of feedback fear. This all leads to lots of anxiety, frustration crossed wires and missed opportunities.

In your example, it sounds like everyone faced feedback head on, with purpose and that lead to great outcomes. This is what I hope everyone’s experience with feedback becomes.

What tips do you suggest to help someone who may be anxious or dreading receiving organisational feedback?

My top three tips would be:

1. Don’t wait for feedback to find you; instead take control by working out what your professional goals and aspirations are, what things you would like to change or develop and go out and actively seek perspectives that will help you achieve the changes you want.

2. Recognise you have a choice; if it’s truly feedback you have a choice about how you use it. (if you don’t have a choice then what someone is giving you is a direction or instruction not feedback). Once you receive feedback take the time to consider what you have heard and then decide if you want to action it, get clarity on it or put it to one side.

3. Stay grounded; learning some grounding techniques can help you stay in the conversation rather than getting overwhelmed by anxiety or emotion. You could explore breathing techniques or ways to stay present. These don’t only work in feedback situations!

What main tip(s) do you suggest to someone who has to prepare organisational feedback about another person?  

My top three tips for providers would be:

1. Get the recipients feedback recipe; most people have preferences for how they like to receive feedback, for example in writing vs in person, privately or publicly or in advance so they can reflect or ‘live’. When we prepare feedback, we tend to do it with our own preferences in mind, but that might not work for the recipient. Get their recipe ahead of time and you’re likely to have more positive impact with your feedback.

2. Conversation not a monologue; Feedback is an exchange not a transaction, give space to hear the recipient, let them ask questions for clarity and share their perspectives on what they are hearing. Most people in my research want and welcome feedback, they just don’t want it ‘done to them’.

3. Think about the environment; environments that suggest formality can add extra anxiety to the feedback exchange. Think about what you want to say and then what are your options for example could you do a walking meeting, could you go to a less formal meeting room if your organisation has one. The environment we are in can have a big effect on how both the provider and recipient feel.

Being an organisational psychologist, what is it about your job that you enjoy or gives you the most satisfaction? The downside?

I enjoy many things about my job, I find humans fascinating and I feel incredibly fortunate that I get to work with such diverse people and organisations, as they pursue their goals. 

One of the key things that’s gives me satisfaction is seeing the people I work with do things that they once thought they couldn’t. That could be watching them deliver a presentation, improving their mental health, working more sustainably or changing unhelpful habits. I find it very rewarding and a privilege that I get to walk alongside people as they go on these journeys.

Growing up, did you always want to be a psychologist, or did you want to pursue a career in a completely different direction?

When I was in my early teens, I actually wanted to be a barrister – I think there is something about human behaviour that I have always found interesting. Then in my late teens and early 20s I started coaching school basketball and found a passion for coaching. At this stage I thought I would pursue a career in sports psychology and coaching but never imagined some years later that I would be an organisational psychologist and now author.

What are the common problems/symptoms that social anxiety can create in the workplace and what do you suggest they should try to alleviate the anxiety?

Social anxiety in an organisational setting can manifest in various ways, significantly impacting both individual performance, perception and overall workplace dynamics. 

Individuals with social anxiety often experience intense fear of being judged or evaluated by others. This can make performance reviews, presentations, and even casual interactions like lunch highly stressful. This fear can lead to avoidance of situations where they might be evaluated, limiting their opportunities for growth and advancement. One of the other challenges is the miss perception this behaviour can then create in others, I might start to make meaning of why Dave or Katrina don’t come to that meeting, “overreact” or “get defensive” in that review etc and I might then start to do their thinking for them. Meaning I might discount them for that opportunity, I might stop inviting them or giving them feedback assuming they don’t want it.

It’s first important to recognise that anxiety is a normal human response to perceived or real threat, so there is nothing “wrong” with someone if they experience anxiety. I would encourage people who feel able to, to talk to their managers or colleagues about their anxiety and figure out ways they can navigate organisational life and even practice some of the things they find that activate their anxiety.

If people don’t want to talk to colleagues about it, I think it can be really helpful to work out what activates your anxiety, what real or imagined threats you are perceiving and then what resources you have to support you in dealing with them.

For Pinning Later

Is your book “Can I Offer You Something? Expert Ways To Unpack The Horrors Of Organisational Feedback” available to purchase worldwide?

Yes, Can I Offer You Something is available worldwide in print, eBook and audio book. Here are some of the Amazon worldwide links.

USA –Amazon.com 

Germany – Amazon.de

France – Amazon.fr

Spain – Amazon.es

Italy – Amazon.it

Netherlands – Amazon.nl

Japan – Amazon.jp

Brazil – Amazon.br

Canada – Amazon.ca

Mexico – Amazon.mx

Australia – Amazon.au

India – Amazon.in

In the US it’s also available in Barnes and Noble and other local book retailers globally.

Personal now – what outfits and shoes would you normally be found wearing?

I’d typically be found wearing a nice pair of jeans, a blouse or top and cardigan and 99 times out of 100 with converse on my feet. It’s important for me to be comfortable when I work and be authentic in how I show up, for me my clothes and shoes are a part of that authenticity.

Do you have any favourite shops or online sites ?

I spend most of my spare time playing instruments, baking or building Lego so I love browsing sites that sell guitars and ukuleles, the Lego store and sites where I can learn new recipes.

What’s next on your clothes/shoe wish list?

I’d like to expand my converse collection, and I have my eye on a lovely pair of forest green low tops.

Boots or Shoes? 

I would say shoes, I find shoes (and trainers) offer more variety for me in terms of design and colour. I also find them generally more comfortable to wear, although in the winter you will find me in a nice pair of brown lace up boots.

Links you would like to share e.g. website/Facebook etc

Can I Offer You Something?

LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckywestwood

https://www.linkedin.com/company/monkey-puzzle-training-and-consultancy-limited

Great chatting to you Becky, and I love your hobbies of Lego and ukuleles and cooking too!

Linda x

All photographs have been published with the kind permission of Becky Westwood. Cat photo by Linda Hobden

Share This!
Email, RSS Follow
Pin It
Email
Beauty/Hair, Health/Fitness/Sport, Life Issues/ Motivational Posts

Beginners Guide To Laser Eye Surgery

My guest this week is Professor Sunil Shah, Consultant Ophthalmic surgeon at Midland Eye. If you are looking at having laser eye surgery done, or trying to decide what options would be best for you or simply just curious about laser eye surgery , then Sunil’s guest post is just for you….

Laser eye surgery reshapes your eye’s cornea, which is the clear, dome-shaped surface at the front of your eye. Using incredibly precise lasers, surgeons can modify the cornea’s shape to change how light enters your eye, helping to correct various vision problems that might currently have you reaching for your glasses or contact lenses.

Usually taking just 15-30 minutes for both eyes, it has become one of the most common elective surgeries in the UK. Yet, laser eye surgery isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution and sometimes there are better options to solve your vision problems. 

Which Type Of Laser Surgery Could Help You?

The type of laser surgery that’s right for you depends largely on your specific vision problems. Let’s look at the main options and what they can help with:

Laser-Assisted In Situ Keratomileusis (LASIK)

LASIK is the most common type of laser eye surgery. The surgeon creates a small flap, reshapes the corneal tissue underneath with a laser, then puts the flap back in place. It’s particularly good for:

● Moderate to severe short-sightedness (up to -8D)

● Mild to moderate long-sightedness (up to +4D)

● Astigmatism (where your eye is rugby ball shaped: up to 6D)

The big advantage of LASIK is its quick recovery time – most people can return to work within a couple of days, and their vision stabilises relatively quickly.

Photorefractive Keratectomy (PRK) or the newer version called LASEK

PRK might be an older technique, but it’s still the best choice for some people. 

LASEK (Laser epithelial keratomileusis) can theoretically combine all the advantages of LASIK and PRK and potentially avoid some of their complications.

With PRK, instead of creating a flap, the surgeon gently removes the cornea’s surface layer before reshaping the tissue. 

With LASEK, a flap of the very top layer (the epithelium) is made without the need for any cutting.

While recovery takes longer than LASIK (usually 5 days), it’s often recommended for:

● People with thinner corneas

● Those involved in contact sports

● Military or emergency service personnel

● Treatment of lower prescriptions 

● Those with relatively dry eyes

● Those scared of the ‘cut’ in LASIK

Small Incision Lenticule Extraction (SMILE) 

SMILE is the newest addition to the laser eye surgery family. It’s a bit like keyhole surgery for your eyes – requiring only a tiny incision rather than a flap. It’s particularly good for:

● Higher degrees of short-sightedness 

● Those concerned about dry eyes after surgery

What Laser Eye Surgery Cannot Treat

While laser eye surgery can help with many vision problems, it’s important to understand its limitations. Some eye conditions require different types of treatment entirely. For instance, refractive laser eye surgery can’t help with age-related macular degeneration, glaucoma, or severe diabetic eye disease (although there are other lasers available for those conditions). 

Laser eye surgery also can’t prevent the natural ageing of your eyes. So, while it might give you perfect distance vision now, you may still need reading glasses as you get older – just like everyone else. 

It’s important to note that while both procedures have “laser” in their name, laser eye surgery is quite different from laser cataract surgery or laser refractive lens exchange. Laser eye surgery reshapes your cornea to correct vision problems, while cataract surgery and refractive lens exchange—whether laser-assisted or traditional—both replace your eye’s natural lens with an artificial one rather than reshaping your natural lens. 

Considering Every Option

While laser eye surgery is an effective treatment for those with moderate prescriptions who don’t need reading glasses, refractive lens exchange can prove a longer-lasting solution for many patients. In fact, most patients who initially come to Midland Eye Clinic for laser eye surgery opt to have refractive lens exchange surgery instead.

Not only can refractive lens exchange fix severe vision issues, but it can also help with reading issues in older patients. It also ensures that you’ll never suffer from cataracts as you are swapping a natural lens for an artificial one.

This is why having a thorough consultation is so important; it helps ensure you have realistic expectations about what the surgery can and cannot achieve and a full range of options for your particular situation. The best eye surgery is the one that is right for you long-term, not which solves an issue for the time being.

The Journey To Clearer Vision

Getting laser eye surgery typically starts with a thorough assessment. If you are having vision issues and think that laser eye surgery could help, start by chatting with your optician, or you could self-refer to a specialist eye clinic like Midland Eye.

If your consultant believes that laser eye surgery might help improve your vision problems, they will then book in an initial consultation. During your initial consultation, your eye care team will:

● Take detailed measurements of your eyes

● Create a 3D map of your corneas

● Check your overall eye health

● Discuss what you’re hoping to achieve

● Talk through which type of surgery might suit you best

Recovery and Results

The recovery journey after laser eye surgery is usually straightforward, though it varies depending on which procedure you’ve had. Most people find their eyes feel a bit uncomfortable for the first few hours after surgery – rather like having a grain of sand in your eye. This is completely normal and usually eases quickly.

Your vision will typically be a bit blurry at first, rather like looking through a steamy window, but this gradually clears over the first few days. You’ll need to use eye drops regularly during this time to help with healing and keep your eyes comfortable. Many people are pleasantly surprised by how quickly they can return to their daily routine, though it’s wise to take things easy for the first few days.

Over the following weeks, your vision will continue to settle and improve. While many people notice dramatic improvements within days, your eyes need about 3-6 months to fully stabilise. During this time, you might notice your vision fluctuates slightly – being a bit sharper or blurrier at different times of the day. This is perfectly normal and gradually settles down.

Most people achieve very good vision after their surgery, with many reaching 20/20 vision or better. However, it’s important to remember that everyone’s eyes heal slightly differently, and while the vast majority of people are delighted with their results, a small number might need a follow-up procedure to achieve their best possible vision.

Depending on your clinic and the scope of the surgery, there may or may not be an additional cost for the follow-up procedure. At Midland Eye, for example, we provide a free follow-up surgery for further correction as we specialise in complex prescriptions, where it is difficult to predict the exact outcome of surgery.

For Pinning Later. Photo by Linda Hobden

The Financial Side

Cost is often a key factor in decision-making. Laser eye surgery typically isn’t available on the NHS unless you have specific medical conditions affecting your vision. For most people, it’s a private treatment costing between £2,000 and £4,000 per eye, and many clinics offer payment plans to spread the cost.

Consider that refractive lens exchange surgery costs around £3,000 to £4,000 per eye and can treat more severe vision issues, prevent cataracts and help with reading issues as you age, and it is clear why so many choose it over laser eye surgery.

Making Your Decision

Laser eye surgery can be life-changing, but it’s important to:

● Take your time deciding

● Ask plenty of questions

● Have realistic expectations

● Choose a reputable provider

● Your vision will typically be a bit blurry at first, rather like looking through a steamy window, but this gradually clears over the first few days. You’ll need to use eye drops regularly during this time to help with healing and keep your eyes comfortable. Many people are pleasantly surprised by how quickly they can return to their daily routine, though it’s wise to take things easy for the first few days.

Remember, while laser eye surgery has an excellent safety record and high satisfaction rates, it’s still a surgical procedure. Take time to weigh up your options, and don’t feel rushed into making a decision.

About Professor Sunil Shah & Midland Eye

Professor Sunil Shah is a Consultant Ophthalmic Surgeon at Midland Eye. Midland Eye was founded by four ophthalmic surgeons who wanted to provide patients with a comprehensive, specialist service for the diagnosis and treatment of all eye conditions. The team are leaders in their field and offer a consultant-only service to all patients requiring eye care or surgery. Every consultant is qualified to treat common eye conditions such as cataracts, but each one also has a particular area of specialisation, ensuring that patients get the best possible outcome, no matter what the diagnosis.

https://midlandeye.com

https://www.facebook.com/midlandeyesocial

https://www.instagram.com/midland_eye

https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-midland-eye-institute-limited

All photographs have been published with the kind permission of Professor Sunil Shah & Midland Eye (apart from where stated)

Share This!
Email, RSS Follow
Pin It
Email
Books, Life Issues/ Motivational Posts, Reviews

Book Review: The Making Of Brio McPride

This week I’m reviewing “The Making Of Brio McPride” by R.A.Ruegg . This book is the inspiration for a film due to be released this year – Spiked! This book was promoted to me as being a cross between “The Curious Incident Of The Dog In The Night Time” and “Life Of Pi”. Another plus is that 30% of royalties are being given to mental health charities. As I have read both of those books, I was looking forward to a thought provoking read – and I wasn’t disappointed!

For Pinning later

BOOK SUMMARY

Sometimes to mend a broken heart, they have to blow your mind.

No matter how many shrinks they throw at him, Brio’s going to prove to his beloved Lizzy that it’s not him who’s mentally ill, it’s the rest of the world.

Logie’s a different kind of psychotherapist, though, and a despairing Brio thinks that maybe this weird ‘narrative hypnotherapy’ actually could help him find the father he never knew. It might even stop him grieving for his mum and worrying he’s gay.

But behind Logie lurks a big-data giant that’ll stop at nothing to win approval for its Al- driven mental health platform. And all Brio really knows as he disappears into the hypnotic haze of his ‘deepmind parable’ is that it’s going to be a life-or-death mission like no story he’s ever written.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

R.A RUEGG is a professional ghost writer and advertising copy writer who grew up in Britain, read law at King’s College, London, then spent several years in the US and East Asia before emigrating to Australia.

MY VIEWPOINT

Wow … this book is intense – emotional, baffling, interesting and definitely thought provoking. Exploring themes such as parenting, mental illness, gender alignment, teenage angst, grief, young love …. this book isn’t straight forward. I must admit I was a bit baffled by the “narrative hypnotherapy “ storyline at first, then all of a sudden its role in the overall tale clicked into my brain and I was then immersed and taken along on this fascinating life journey of 15 year old Brio. So, what did I love about the book? The character of Brio. I was rooting for him, all the way. I wanted him to truly find himself and love who he was. But he’s 15. He’s grieving. He’s looking for his father. He’s wanting approval and acceptance. This is a contemporary tale that isn’t lightweight, but it isn’t all doom and gloom either…there is a sprinkling of hope and love. Definitely food for thought and a truly satisfying read. 8/10

FURTHER INFORMATION

This book is available from Amazon and available to order in all good bookshops.

Check out the Brio McPride website: https://briomcpride.com

My thanks to Cameron Publicity & Marketing for a review copy of The Making Of Brio McPride. All views expressed are 100% my own

All photographs are by Linda Hobden

Share This!
Email, RSS Follow
Pin It
Email
Life Issues/ Motivational Posts

The Power Of Creativity For Internal Reflection

Happy New Year!

I’m starting off 2025 with a guest post by Emily Portullo, talking about the Power Of Creativity For Internal Reflection. Emily is a certified life coach, author of 12 Creative Steps To A Fulfilling Life and a novelist too. Over to you Emily:

With the distractions of every day life doing their best to externalise our attention away from how we feel about things, it is important to also find ways to be present with ourselves. And creativity is a great way to do that. Creativity allows us to tap into aspects that speak to who we are as individuals and identify what is important to us, as opposed to focussing on what others consider acceptable. As Pablo Picasso said, ‘Art is the elimination of the unnecessary’. 

To take time to venture inside ourselves and understand how we feel, to identify emotions and then express them on paper, not only brings into the physical what we might find hard to process otherwise, but also now becomes a tangible element to work with. 

For example: dissatisfaction with our life as it is now, leads to looking around at what other people have and wishing we could also have the same. That longing in itself will not manifest the life of others we so wish for. So what if we asked ourselves the question, what do I want? And then really felt into the emotions that question brings up. Where in the body am I feeling this emotion? What does it look like? Perhaps its anger sitting in your gut, it’s black and writhing, and makes you feel nauseous. Now your attention is internalised, there’s something there to work with, you are back in control. Perhaps you write about it, and draw what that looks like to you. Visualisation is now in play also. 

For Pinning Later: A house wall mural in Fleurie, France . Photo by Linda Hobden

This technique can work with any aspect of our life that we might long to change, eventually culminating in habitually going inside ourselves to feel for answers rather than constantly seeking them externally. How do I feel about my life right now? What would I rather be doing? What is stopping me from doing what I truly desire? And so on. Now you’re on a journey of self-discovery, an exploration into the heart of you; the internal workings that are crying out for your attention if only you would take the time to notice them. 

Soon we get into the habit of noticing each time our body has a reaction to something. And rather than searching for the meaning externally, we know to go inside and explore what that might mean to us personally. What does it look like? How does it feel? Where in the body is trying to get my attention? Perhaps we write and draw about it in whatever way feels right to us. 

Now we’re building a picture of how we really feel about our lives, and perhaps the next steps we need to take become clearer. More questions arise which cause other emotions and feelings to become apparent that we can now also work with. It’s a process, a journey, one that can be extremely confronting. But if we allow ourselves, we could also see it as an adventure; a rewriting of our life story in which we get to use our imagination to create the experience we truly want. Imagine not repeating the same patterns over and over, imagine what that would look like; how rather than going round in circles you could be moving forwards, towards your heart’s desire. 

Using creative tools such as writing and drawing, along with imagination, ignites aspects of us that we had perhaps forgotten about. Our innate ability to make something out of nothing, to take a blank page and bring it to life, reminds us that with every step we take we are always creating something that before didn’t exist until we brought it into our reality. And that by utilising that skill every day we might remember how powerful we truly are. 

‘There is no doubt that creativity is the most important human resource of all. Without creativity, there would be no progress, and we would be forever repeating the same patterns.’ – Edward De Bono.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: EMILY PATTULLO

Emily Pattullo is an award-winning author and certified life coach. She has worked in magazine publishing in London and then briefly in New Zealand, as well as run her own writing, editing and proof reading business. Her passion lies in human potential through creativity. Emily’s first novel, Ring Around Rosie, is a YA thriller, highlighting the terrifying world of child-trafficking and prostitution. Her second novel, Silent as the Snow, is a character-led literary thriller for adults. Originally from Dorset, she currently lives in New Zealand.

EMILY’S LATEST BOOK: 12 CREATIVE STEPS TO A FULFILLING LIFE

A creative journey of self-discovery, examining your life as it is now and exploring the steps you need to take in order to live the life you truly desire. We came here to experience a joyful and fulfilling life in which we create our every moment from a place of love and abundance. But we have got so caught up in the opinion of others, social expectation, and conforming to an out-dated paradigm, that we have forgotten how powerful we really are and that we have complete control over our life experience.This journal invites you to take a look at how you feel about your life right now, and what you would like to change about it. It is a step-by-step process in which you have the opportunity to really explore what it is you truly desire. It requires some deep inner reflection and honesty on your part to make choices around what is currently serving you and what it’s time to let go of. It is a chance to face your nemesis, your inner self-critic, the one who is standing in the way of your greatest potential. Take up the challenge and become the superhero of your own story!

TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT EMILY

emilypattullo.com

My thanks to Emily for the guest post. 😊 The book cover and author photograph have been published with the kind permission of Emily Pattullo.

Share This!
Email, RSS Follow
Pin It
Email
Books, Interview, Life Issues/ Motivational Posts, Reviews

Author Interview: Josje Weusten

Over the past year we have witnessed a rise of Fake News and rumours in the news and media. Sometimes we just don’t realise how fake news can shape our thinking; and those who create fake news don’t always realise the consequences of their actions. My book choice this week is the debut novel “Fake Fish” by Josje Weusten. It’s a dystopian novel about the rise of fake news and deep fakes…. and the subsequent consequences. A thoroughly enjoyable read but it is a read that gives you food for thought. Here’s a quick summary to whet your appetite:

BOOK SUMMARY

A varied group of characters in an increasingly dystopian world have to deal with ‘deep fakes’ distorting their very sense of reality. 
In a world drowning in a deluge of falsehoods, “Fake Fish” confronts the insidious rise of false news, and unmasks the far-reaching consequences that extend beyond mere headlines. With an unflinching gaze, this novel exposes the alarming impact of deceit on a global scale, as personal and national reputations crumble, and the very fabric of truth is torn apart.
As the story unfolds, the characters navigate the treacherous landscape of a society where nothing can be trusted. “Fake Fish” is a timely exploration of the fragility of reality in an age where truth is being swallowed by technology.

THE INTERVIEW

Please welcome author Josje Weusten onto the blog. Hi Josje 👋

Hello there, my name is Josje Weusten. I am an international author living in Belgium, writing in English. I know my Dutch name is impossible for many English-speaking people to pronounce. My students, who come from all over the world, usually call me Joss or Josy. Feel free to do the same 😊

As I have already mentioned my students, you may have guessed that I am into teaching. Indeed, next to a writer of fiction, poet, and essayist, I am a senior lecturer in literary studies and creative writing at Maastricht University—the European University of the Netherlands. As in life, I love crossing borders in writing, by mixing different genres, or by blending fiction with truth. My goal is to create ambiguous stories that invite readers to consider multiple perspectives.

Who or what inspired you to write “Fake Fish”? 

I find it hard to pinpoint when the idea for “Fake Fish” precisely took hold. Despite everything I’ve read and know about creative writing, there is something about writing fiction that still eludes me. Something that is too fleeting, too divine almost, to be captured in words. When I write, it often feels as if not I but somebody else is doing it, that it is a character rather than me who leads the way. 

But looking back at the entire process, I recall at least two key moments, which have shaped the central idea of the book. The first concerns a conversation with a student who barged into the classroom saying she did not want to read the work of a specific author, as she had seen something online about him having made misogynist statements. I heard her out, and together we looked at the information she found, which turned out to be false. This resulted in an interesting conversation about how to assess whether information is factually correct. In addition, we talked about what we should have done if it had been true. Would that indeed need to result in banning a work of fiction (of which I am very wary), or would there be other, better ways in which we could handle that situation?

The second moment, was when I lost touch with a friend during the Covid pandemic, as she became increasingly convinced of the idea that the disease, the vaccines, all of it, were part of a large conspiracy. We found ourselves at opposing ends and at the time, the distance between us seemed impossible to bridge. I still regret I didn’t try to find a common ground.

“Fake Fish” is a dystopian novel about the rise of fake news and deep fakes. The characters are very believable  – I especially loved the characters of feisty Eveline and her opposite, Martin.  Did you base a lot of your characters on you and people you’ve met in life? Which character did you enjoy writing about the most?  Which character was the hardest?

I’m so glad you find the characters credible. Since I love character-driven stories, that means the world to me. I believe it was the British-Japanese novelist Kazuo Ishiguro who once said characters are the backbone of a good story and I fully agree with him. 

A large part of my creative process consists of getting to know my characters and figuring out how to write about them in a lifelike way. One of the main challenges I encountered actually had nothing to do with the characters themselves but stemmed from the fact that “Fake Fish” has several interwoven storylines instead of one central plot. The main event connecting these storylines is the release of a video by Martin—who is a film studies student—picturing one of his professors making misogynist remarks about women in the film industry. As the video goes viral, it is not immediately clear whether the video is real or a deep fake. Is the professor who people thought he was? Are the outraged responses justified? What is the truth? Although there are no clear answers, all characters are forced to take a stance. 

To make the complexity of the situation tangible, the story continuously switches between different points of view. Yet switching between different points of view during the writing process proved to be detrimental to creating believable and complex characters with a voice of their own. I thus decided to focus on only one storyline at a time while writing and to interweave them afterwards. That way I could truly empathise with every character. 

To some extent, I indeed draw on my own experiences and emotions for this, but the characters are not directly based on me or on people I have met. Although I understand people might think this might be the case, as the book is largely set at a university and I am after all a professor in literature and creative writing.

“Fake Fish” is your debut novel – were there any aspects of writing the novel that surprised you, pleasantly or otherwise? 

Can I let you in on a secret? In a way, the whole novel was a surprise! What’s now “Fake Fish” in fact started as what I thought was going to be a poem. I love to play with the sound and rhythm of language, and the original lines I wrote that day are still in “Fake Fish”. They are even etched in my mind: 

“She has tried to return to that split-second of forgetting, looking for it between the sheets in different beds and in the hands of other men. Hands with various smells, skin, and age, leathery, soft, with or without cigarette stains, scars, moles, freckles, cracks, sharp nails, bitten ones. She makes them stain her and the bedding, but they all feel the same: different.”

Once I penned down those words, I started to wonder who was behind them, as they were most definitely not reflective of me. Who was the person or persona that had such thoughts? As I explored this further, the text started to grow into what’s now the second chapter of the book, which is told from Eveline’s perspective. When I finished that chapter, I knew I was dealing with something different here, something special: a novel. 

If you could visit any country/place in the world, to base your next novel in, where would you go and why? 

I am already working on my next novel, which is again a dystopian story. I don’t want to give away too much but it revolves around a society in which one’s age is not based on actual years, but on how healthy one is. Staying young has become a moral duty and anyone who cannot live up to this standard is expected to minimize the “burden” they put on society.

The story is set in the area where I grew up, which happens to be the area in the Netherlands with the oldest population. It’s a border area too, just like in “Fake Fish”. 

I find border regions highly interesting as they are places where cultures meet and mix.Moreover, border regions unsettle the idea that we can easily separate one culture or one group of people from another. In Europe at least, these regions are culturally fluid and messy(and I mean messy in a good way), and as such they can unsettle preconceived ideas we may have of ourselves and others.

Are you a bookworm? What is your favourite genre and/or authors? Kindle or actual book? 

Yes, I am. Ever since I was a little girl I have been reading and writing. I think that every writer should be an avid reader too. You learn so much about the craft from reading the work of others. I read broadly and in various languages (English, Dutch, and German). Some of my favourite international authors are Kazuo Ishiguro, Margaret Atwood, and J.M. Coetzee. My favourite Dutch novelist is Renate Dorrestein. I’m not a big fan of hard-core non-fiction publications and you’d rarely catch me reading a biography. But when it comes to fiction, I have no boundaries. From speculative to historical and contemporary novels and yes, even autofiction; I’ll devour them all.

Is “Fake Fish” available to purchase worldwide?

Yes, it is, through Amazon amongst others, but you can also order the book via your local book shop.

Growing up had you always wanted to be an author or did you have other career aspirations?

When I was about four or five years old, I wanted to be a writer or a pastry chef. Those might seem to be entirely different professions. Still, to me, writing and baking are both creative outlets, and baking still is one of my main hobbies. But I guess writing is indeed a better fit. I can be quite chaotic and love experimenting to see what might happen, perhaps a bit too much to have been a good pastry chef.

Josje, you are a Dutch fiction writer, writing in English, living in Belgium.  When you think of ideas for your stories, do your ideas flow in English or do you translate from your mother tongue into English? Why do you prefer to write in English ? 

It wasn’t a very conscious choice to write in English. For over 20 years, I have been teaching literature and creative writing in English. As a result, my writerly mind has been linguistically rewired and ideas flow in English. 

I also express myself differently in English than in Dutch. A language is so much more than just a medium, it also shapes your writing style, and how you relate to specific topics. Writing in English allows me to look at my writing more critically, weighing every word perhaps more carefully than I probably would when writing in Dutch. 

Admittedly, once I finished that first chapter of “Fake Fish”, I translated it into Dutch to see if it would be better, but it just didn’t feel right, at least not for this book, which I also wanted to be very fast-paced. English works better then. But perhaps, who knows, I will write in Dutch for a future project. 

Personal now – what outfits and shoes would you normally be found wearing?

Haha, that’s indeed very personal. I like to wear short A-line skirts and dresses. My favourite colours are sage green, deep camel, navy blue, and white. I like simple outfits; no prints, except for the occasional plaid skirt. I am a sucker for heels and lace-up ankle boots.

Do you have any favourite shops or online sites?

I love second hand stores. I try to refrain from buying new clothes. Many of my clothes, shoes and bags are preloved items. It’s one of the ways I try to make a difference, although I do sometimes fall for a new item as well. My most recent purchase is set of handmade art deco style earrings with a matching a necklace. I love their timeless quality. I stumbled upon them on a market while strolling through Glasgow, which I was visiting to promote “Fake Fish”. The young woman who makes them also has a web shop(https://www.popupjewelleryltd.com). I already have my eyes on another pair.   

What’s next on your clothes/shoe wish list?

A pair of whiskey-coloured vintage cowboy boots. I have been searching for those for quite some time now, but haven’t struck gold yet. 

Boots or Shoes?

Listen to Nancy Sinatra and you’ll know why the answer to this question always has to be boots 😊

Links you would like to share e.g. website/facebook etc

https://josjeweusten.co.uk

https://www.instagram.com/josjeweusten

Fabulous to chat to you Josje. I adored your book (thanks for the review copy) & I love the fact that you’re a fellow boot kindred spirit! 😊

Linda x

All photographs have been published with the kind permission of Josje Weusten.

Share This!
Email, RSS Follow
Pin It
Email